Thursday, 4 June 2015

After by Francis Chalifour (Post #6)


The news article that I have chosen is about Sheryl Sandberg publishing a post on Facebook expressing her feelings and concerns one year after her husband died. The reason I chose this was that many of the concerns she expressed were similar to Francis’ thoughts and feelings.

The author, Kate Dailey, included some excerpts of the post in her article:
"I think when tragedy occurs, it presents a choice. You can give in to the void, the emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even breathe. Or you can try to find meaning," Sheryl Sandberg wrote. "These past thirty days, I have spent many of my moments lost in that void. And I know that many future moments will be consumed by the vast emptiness as well. But when I can, I want to choose life and meaning."

This quotation reminds me of Francis throughout the book. At first, he gave in to the void, but later on, through counselling and talking to friends, he chose life and meaning. At the end of book, which fast forwards a few years later, he mentions that he still has those moments of emptiness, but still chooses life and meaning, just like Sheryl.

Sheryl received a lot of support from her followers and many people commented their experiences. One woman, Julie Marbles wrote, “It's like being hit in the nose: it always hurts just as much but you learn to keep fighting. We learn to breathe. We learn to accept that sometimes out of the blue grief is going to visit with us. And the road we were on is no longer the same, nor is the destination nor are the risks and fears and dangers.”


Her quote relates back to both Francis and Sheryl. It can be said that although there are many coping mechanisms when dealing with grief, this is the central message behind it. Even though it’s hard, you learn to accept it and move on. 

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